What Happens In Psychotherapy and Counselling
Your therapy session will take place online using Zoom. We are now a 100% online practice and will remain so in the future.
Therapy itself will be experiential. So what does that mean?
Trauma response shows up in the body. Many therapies involve lots of talking. But that just talks to the left side of the brain. The logical brain can confuse us as it tries to intellectualise what is happening. It tends to muddy the water rather than clarify.
This is why many people experience being in therapy for years, showing up week after week to simply talk.
Experiences allow us to focus on the felt knowledge of the body. They allow us to create scenarios that teach a sense of safety to your nervous system.
We could all get the change we want if it felt safe to do so. Indeed, we make those kind of changes all the time. For instance, when you’re thirsty, you might have a glass of water. That’s change, and it’s easy, because there is no sense of threat attached.
When a problem feels so hard to change that we decide to seek therapy, the nervous system doesn’t feel safe to let you have what you want. And for good reason given what you have experienced in life.
By connecting with how the nervous system shows up in your body, we can use experiences to make the lasting change you want.
We will tend to start each session by noticing what is going on for you right now. You do this by closing your eyes and tuning in. You can try it now even. Close your eyes and shut out the world for a moment and just be. You’ll notice that some parts of your body feel a certain way.
Maybe you feel butterflies in your stomach, a tight chest, or a leg agitatedly bouncing.
We take whatever you notice as our starting point. We follow the lead of your nervous system to discover the part of you that is needing help today.
Updating Old Learning
When your nervous system knows it is now safe for you to get what you want, the change becomes easy for you.
The nervous system learns not to feel safe as a result of negative experiences. They update that learning through specific kinds of positive experiences.
This is why experiential therapy is so much more effective than endlessly talking. It produces change that is lasting and effortless to maintain.
The entire process is confidential.
We will be able to mark your progress through therapy in a number of ways. From session to session you will be able to see how much progress you are making.
The goal of therapy is to find out how you want life to be different and then remove the obstacles to living the life you want.
There can be tears and that’s okay. But overall, it is usually a joyful and uplifting experience.
What Is The Difference Between Psychotherapy and Counselling
These days, the terms are often used interchangeably. Depending on how they work, there can sometimes be bigger differences between different psychotherapists, than between counsellors and psychotherapists.
But here’s a possible way to think of it.
Some people come to therapy because they want to change.
Others come to therapy because they want to be supported while they get through a difficult situation.
A rough rule of thumb is that change work involves psychotherapy, and support work involves counselling.
Psychotherapists have also been trained in psychological theories that counsellors are not necessarily trained in.
At The Liverpool Psychotherapy Practice, we focus on change work. If you are struggling with something and want to create change in your life, we are the right choice for you.