297: The 3 Opposites That Lead To Change

by alunparry
December 15, 2021

In order to get to transformational change, it helps to think of three opposites. In this episode, I share my mental framework for creating change when working with my own clients.

WHY CHOOSE ME?

Get rid of the problem - I focus on removing trauma - not "managing" it. At the end of our work, it will be gone.

Genuine personal care - I keep numbers low and exclusive so you are kept top of mind in between sessions.

Effective results - you won't be in therapy for longer than you need. I don't follow the New York model of keeping you in therapy for years.

SPECIALIST

I am a trauma specialist and I train other therapists on how to remove trauma.

I use a breakthrough in neuroscience that most other therapists are still unaware of.

REVIEWS

"I nearly didn’t go to therapy. I told myself that I’m not really struggling and others have it worse. But I found a safe space where I can talk and confront issues and emotions.

There are lots of techniques that are available so if one doesn’t work we would just try another that did. So I never felt a failure. It was a learning experience.

It was helpful to have an impartial ear on things, to get a different perspective, and validation. I’d happily recommend Alun to others. He’s a great therapist. I feel listened to."

"I was apprehensive that therapy would be hard or painful. Instead, I found it was such a positive experience.

There was only one time I was upset out of 10 sessions but I felt very supported and Alun helped me feel in control. It was up to me to say as little or as much as I felt comfortable with.

I liked feeling safe. I looked forward to the session. I made real progress for me in the way that I wanted.

I am now more proactive in choosing what I want to do and making it happen. I’m happier. Life feels less of a struggle. I’m making choices for me, instead of everyone else, which is what I wanted to achieve.

I would definitely recommend Alun. He has a way of helping you think about things in a different way. It’s a subtle rejigging, so your mind is set to achieve what you want without it being hard. The solutions are there and you are able to see them more clearly. It makes you happier.

I’ve felt really blessed to have found Alun. He is kind, supportive, intuitive and his positivity makes you feel good. He encourages and applauds your progress. He has a good sense of humour and makes the sessions enjoyable."

"Before coming to therapy I worried whether my therapist would understand my issues and if they would have a flexible approach.

But Alun was amazing.

He has that natural aura that eases your concerns. He was understanding, attentive and had a genuine interest.

I’d 1,000% recommend him.

I’ve seen no less than 15 therapists in my time and Al is, without doubt, the best I’ve seen."

"I felt foolish about going to therapy as I was worried about wasting someone’s time.
I found that my issues are valid, they are not foolish, and are being addressed.

Alun is very approachable and listens to you. He has a way of picking up on things that I wouldn’t notice myself.

I have gained confidence, self worth and acceptance.

I have already recommended Alun to others. I’ve seen a few counsellors but Alun is by far the best. He just gets you.

Alun has helped me massively. I will be forever grateful for his guidance and patience."

"I was concerned that therapy wouldn’t help me and that I didn’t really need it. I wondered whether my problems were too trivial for therapy.

I instantly felt a weight lifted off my shoulders and confidence that my problems could be worked through – and that they were valid problems.

Alun is very approachable and I feel 100% comfortable talking about any issues that I have. He makes you feel understood and he validates my thoughts and feelings.

I got acceptance and a safe environment where I can speak without any judgement. I have a better understanding of my feelings and emotions, and where they stem from.

I have told a lot of my friends about Alun and could not recommend him highly enough.

In my younger years, I have had some experience with counsellors that were often negative. Al offers a comfortable and safe environment where you feel willing to speak openly.

Al is also happy to listen. I have found that other counsellors have projected onto me. But Al takes the time to listen and understand."

"I didn’t know what to expect from therapy. But once I started I found myself looking forward to the sessions.

I liked just how relaxed and calm Al is as a person. He makes you feel the same way.

I am now more confident, more positive, and have learned not to be as hard on myself.

I would recommend him 100% as he has helped me a lot, and I can really see a difference in myself.

I feel a lot more confident. I see things differently. I don’t get stressed out all the time like I used to. I see things in a more positive way, not just the negative in everything.

I feel I can talk about anything big or small without judgement. I feel really comfortable talking to Al. Going to therapy is the best thing I decided to do for myself. I highly recommend him."

"I was worried about the stigma related to seeing a therapist. Once I started coming, I wished I had started sooner.

Al is really welcoming and understanding. I felt really comfortable from the start of the very first session.

I liked his ability to help me understand my own thoughts and emotions in a simple and informative way. Also, Al’s techniques were really helpful and practical for me to use.

I feel more confident, more mindful and happier.

I would recommend him 100%. Al has helped me through severe anxiety. He is a genuine, honest and caring person. His techniques were tailored to me and they are practical to implement in real life.

Al is a life saver! He has helped change my life. I will be forever grateful for the time I have spent with him."

297: The 3 Opposites That Lead To Change

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